When I was 18, I could find a lot of people with whom I would want to spend my time with. Without common interests, without shared values, there is a little basis for friendship. If you want to go to the beach and meditate each morning at 5 AM, you’ll discover that 1 out of 25 is interested in doing this with you. If you are interested in hitting the bars every night, you’ll find that 7 out of 10 people may be interested in doing that, giving you a basis for a friendship. This means that you’ll have fewer friends because statistically, less and less people are going to fit the mold of what you desire from a value perspective. This is a basic truth of life and with the risk of sounding as a sociopath, there are many average people out there with average interests who will settle for little and just a few who want more.

Most people do not exercise, do not read, do not love their job, do not love self-improvement, do not want to grow, do not want to expand their understanding of life. Whatever you desire in life, it’s hard to find people who are passionate and determined to succeed. Something had to go and I’ve simply kept the new improved self and changed the people. Each time I’ve progressed in my life, I’ve found myself alienated to the people I’ve considered friends up to that point. You are simply a different person in the same body and the bounds on which you’ve built said friendships are gone or are at best, diminished. If you want to build a multi-million dollar company, you won’t have the time nor the interest to Netflix and chill. If you want to run a marathon, then you’ll not want to join them for drinks and party at McDonalds. In the moment that this change happens, you become incongruous with the behaviors that made you be a friend to other people. You become a different person by changing how you think and act. This can be reduced to building new habits, physical, emotional, mental and spiritual in nature. Success requires personal transformation, whatever the definition of success may be. You become a different person that has little in common with the people you had previously in your life. Honestly, I’ve found that most people don’t give a damn about you and your success and if they weren’t interested enough in their well being to begin with, they’ll not bother to see you as a potential asset. This can range from having “haters” to people wanting to take advantage of you. Most people would bring some kind of personal prejudice. You really shouldn't tell your business to people that isn't advancing with you. The more closer you stay or lesser the time you give to solve the problem, you'll always perceive it the wrong way. Sure, the way you perceived the problem will change. How do you move in silence in life or in business, when other people think you have nothing going on in your life and starts telling me what I should do, when in reality I have a lot of things going on?” Always give some time and distance yourself from the problem.

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